I just had a 2022 Outback loaner for a couple of days. It had the on / off feature. Car had 17000 miles on it. When the car shuts off, there is a display to tell how long, cumulatively, that the car has been stopped and how much gas saved. For this car, just under 4hrs of stopped and nearly 2 gallons of gas saved. what I have read is that you can not permanently disable this. It will be activated the next time you start the car. One thing I did not like was that if you instinctively hit the gas when the light turns green, you can get jerked real good as the car has to restart, then it jumps. The trick is take your foot off the gas, wait a second, then hit the gas.
Regarding the cruise control, the wifes '17 CRV has the type where you just hit the set button to activate and set the CC. I find this far superior to Subaru's method.