I drive a similar commute. The EyeSight system offers so many features and comforts that I'm sure your wife will love it. I use the Adaptive Cruise Control almost all the time and enjoy it so much plus it's a lot less tiring. The Auto Stop/Start irritated me a little at first but with parkway/highway driving it's rare to come to a complete or 3 second stop so it doesn't kick in that much anyway. I'd recommend the top spec model with the blind spot detection and the heated leather seats in the front for the extra comfort.